In Defense of Solo Female Travel

In defense of solo female travel

I’m sure you’ve all read the shocking headline making waves in the travel community recently.

“Argentine Girls Murdered in Ecuador”

I’m certainly not the first to write on the topic or come to the defense of solo female travel and I’m sure I won’t be the last, but it’s something that’s been eating away at me lately and I felt I ought to contribute a few of my own thoughts to the conversation at hand.

First, I’ll reiterate the truth that so many others have already spoken: these women are not to blame.

The most poignant response to the victim blaming that ensued in the wake of this crime came in the form of a Facebook post written from the perspective of the two deceased girls.  It begins with the words “Ayer, me mataron” (Yesterday, I was killed).  If you haven’t yet read it, I urge you to do so now.  It brings to light all the glaring problems with the victim blaming mentality, and it’s worth a read.

I also want to take a moment to absolve another entity of the blame for this senseless act: the small seaside community of Montañita, Ecuador.  Thankfully, I’m not the first one to come to Montañita’s defense, either (just search for the hashtag #MontanitaNoTieneLaCulpa), but it’s a common knee-jerk reaction to fear the place where bad things have happened, as we’ve seen so many times this year following tragedies in such popular destinations as Paris, Istanbul, and Bangkok.  But Ecuador is not to blame, just as Paris, Istanbul and Bangkok were not to blame for the violence that befell them.  Ecuador is no less safe now than it was just a week ago, and staying away from it won’t guarantee our safety.

It’s simply another attempt to place blame, to create order where there is none, to give ourselves the peace of mind that our choices–not to travel alone, not to travel to Ecuador, not to allow the women we love to travel without a man–ultimately keep bad things from happening.

We want so badly to believe that bad things only happen to those who somehow deserve it, that their choices put them in harm’s way.  I wish just as much as the next person that this were the case.  But since we all know better, perhaps it’s time to elevate the conversation.

Perhaps it’s time to confront problems like violence against women at the source rather than accepting them as facts of life.  Rather than throwing our hands up and saying “Well, THIS problem’s never going away, we might as well just learn to deal with it!” perhaps we should work together to think of ways to eliminate it.  Like promoting a culture of non-violence in schools and teaching non-violent conflict resolution.  Educating young people on the true meaning of consent.  Adopting a zero-tolerance stance on sexual harassment in the workplace with uniform enforcement of discipline.  Far too often, perpetrators of violence against women get away with it, and as I’m learning lately, the problem is far more pervasive in our society than I once believed.

Women who travel solo are not the problem.  Ecuador is not the problem.  The widespread lack of respect for women is precisely the problem.

Will I continue to travel solo?  Without question.  Would I still travel to Ecuador in light of this news?  Absolutely.

Will I sit idly by while women are blamed for the bad things that happen to them?  Hell no.

Women are only going to travel more and more as time goes on and the world becomes more connected.  Rather than fear mongering and scaring them away from their dreams of traveling, we need to refocus our energy and take a preventative approach to safety rather than a defensive one.

To all the women out there who travel solo or who dream of someday traveling solo, help me in keeping the dream alive.  If we cower away from it now, we are handing over a victory to the abusers, the predators, and the murderers, giving them the power they so desire.

We won’t be held down.  We won’t be kept from traveling.  We won’t live our lives in fear.In defense of solo female travel

8 comments

  • Eva Casey

    YES. So wonderfully said, I got chills. I had an experience recently in Bocas del Toro, Panama of being sexually harassed (assaulted? Still not sure). What worried me most about the whole thing was my reaction. I blamed myself. I wondered if maybe I was being too much of a “prude.” I know better than to blame myself. I am a feminist. I preach feminist ideals far and wide. And yet, there’s that underlying sense that if something non-consensual happens to me by a man that I am at fault in some way. Most of my female friends, no matter how loud and proud ‘feminist’ they are, struggle with the same feelings. Until we as a society hold men responsible for their actions and attitudes about women, we will continue to struggle with violence and victim blaming. I’m so glad that we are part of the solution, though. Travel on, women!
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    • Leah Davis (author)

      Oh, this story breaks my heart. It’s so frustrating that we’ve been indoctrinated to believe that harassment or abuse is our own fault. In a way, I can understand how women who are abused by people close to them can feel this way, because the abuser has the opportunity to manipulate them and strip them of self-confidence. They have the time and the opportunity and the closeness to create feelings of shame and guilt in their victim. But to blame ourselves for random acts of violence and aggression from strangers shouldn’t even be a passing thought, and yet it is…and I’m so sorry you experienced that.
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  • Liz Peterson

    Yes. So well written. Thank you!

  • Kinga

    You literally took this article out of my mouth. I am so glad that it’s not only me thinking this way, but it makes my skin cringe to see that I’m still in minority. This Ecuador case was the extreme one, but as you say, there are plenty of other, seeming less harmful cases, when women are always blamed for whatever happens to them. What infuriates me the most is, however, putting the blame on a women when she gets raped. Not once have I read comments like “she should have dressed herself in a different way” and other nonsense. I really hope that by growing consciousness about who is to blame for any offence (obviously, the perpetrator, not the victim), this sick situation will finally change..
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    • Leah Davis (author)

      Agree on all points, Kinga! Blaming victims of rape (or assuming that they are lying, which happens SO often it’s infuriating) is another one that I really hope sees a shift in coming years. No one should have to be traumatized twice, first by experiencing the abuse in the first place and again by being blamed/shamed for it.
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  • Kim

    Thank you for writing this post. This story has haunted me for the past few weeks. I currently live in Peru and a few of my friends were actually in Montañita at the same time that the murders took place. Two of them were young women backpacking together just like the women from Mendoza, and I feel like it could have just as easily been them. It could have been anyone. I am encouraged by the response from my female friends here – they are speaking out against the idea that women should not be traveling “alone” and raising awareness in their own ways that women should feel empowered and able to explore the world without fears of violence.
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    • Leah Davis (author)

      I’m glad to hear the women you’re surrounded by are standing up for female travelers. It’s so misguided to place blame on us for following our dreams, and I hope perceptions begin to shift.
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